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Thomas Richard

Arend, Thomas Richard

Gone much too soon, Tom, age 65, was called to eternal life on Wednesday, July 6, 2016.

Loving husband for 44 years of Elizabeth (nee Blommer). Cherished father of Theresa (Jason) Ramlow, Paul (Julie), Mark, and John. Proud grandfather of Abigail and Benjamin. Son of the late Richard and Ruth (nee Keller). Brother of Cathy Bonney, Pat (Dennis) Miller, Steve (Mary) Arend, and Marilyn (Joe) Moczynski. Preceded in death by brother Jimmy.

Tom was a dedicated member of Local 19 Heat and Frost Insulators for 36 years, working most of those years for L&S Insulation. Tom was a very active member of the former St. Adalbert Parishand School in South Milwaukee. He was very involved in his children’s lives growing up by coaching them in sports such as basketball and baseball through the South Milwaukee Little League. Tom dedicated his life to public service any way possible which included his service as an elected member of the South Milwaukee School Board and worked the polls during recent elections. He was an avid Packer fan and enjoyed playing fantasy football with his friends. Tom spent many hours in the bleachers of every sporting event his grandchildren played. Tom and Beth spent vacations together with family and friends camping in many of the Wisconsin State Parks. He enjoyed fishing for perch and bluegill, tending to the flower gardens in his yard, and bowling in leagues with his friends. Tom really lived his life to the fullest and he will be greatly missed.

Visitation on Tuesday, July 12 4:30-7:00 PM and Wednesday July 13 9:00-9:45 AM at St. Matthew Parish, 9303 S. Chicago Rd. in Oak Creek. Mass of Christian Burial on Wednesday at 10:00 AM.

Final resting place will be at Forest Hill Memorial Park in Oak Creek.

In lieu of flowers memorials are suggested to Wounded Warrior Project, American Heart Association, or American Diabetes Association.

Past Comments

James Gross

Thoughts and Prayers go out to the Arend family.
– Jim Gross

Keith Schissler

Tom was and still is a one of a kind man who met me as a child, seeing me do what children do, then as an adolescent doing..well what they do. I had many bumps along the way in my life as a early adult. Tom as my mentor in my career and my friend in life I feel became great friends. As I traveled through the aches and pains of growing up, he travelled through aches and pains of growing old. I can still remember the day he was giving me my nickname 15 years ago. It was between smiley and smeddley. As he said smiley I frowned as a joke, hence the name Smeddley took form. I will miss his energetic voice when calling him for advice on financial matters or to see who I should play on Sunday in fantasy or when planning a trip, or a dinner among friends or to just shoot the #%^# cause I haven’t heard from him in a couple weeks. It was always ” Hey Smeddley What’s up! ” I could hear his smile on the other end of the line. Tom was a man I feel I could talk to about anything and he would not judge, he would definitely have an opinion , lol, but never a judgment against me. As I look back at the people who changed my life and inspired me to do the right thing to be a better man, a better person, it would be Tom. People at work always told me ” your Uncle Tom took care of you”. I definitely agree he did at work and at home. I wish he didn’t have to leave so soon but the memories he gave me, my family, friends and colleagues are great to hold on to.

That being said, my deepest sympathies to the Arend family. To have to lose a great man so soon doesn’t seem fair. I know he lived his days for you. Tom was so proud of his family. The amount of praise and love I heard during work and play was that of a man who felt accomplished leaving a great legacy behind him. He will surely be missed.

With love.
Keith Schissler aka Smeddley.

Sandy Gnerlich

I grew up two houses down from the Arend family on 25th Street. Tom was our favorite babysitter because he let us stay up late! My sincere sympathy to Beth and your children, as well as the friends I grew up with – Cathy, Pat, Steve and Marilyn.

Sandy Knudson Gnerlich

Shannon Stone

My deepest condolences and heartfelt prayers go out to the whole Arend family and all of Tom’s friends. He had such a great personality and will undoubtedly be incredibly missed.

My life’s course was changed by Tom and I feel beyond grateful to have known him. He became more a father figure to me than my own father and he provided guidance, counsel and encouragement that shaped and influenced my adult years in a HUGE way. His blunt honesty was somehow endearing and his sense of humor subtly hilarious. His ability to have a respectful and inquisitive conversation with people with different opinions/beliefs was what fostered his influence to my faith, my politics, my relationship, my financial stability and my work life. Humble man he was, he poo-pooed any gratitude I ever tried to give him for this. I am thanking God today that He saw fit to give me one more meaningful conversation with Tom a couple of months ago. I’ll hold it close to my heart until we meet again in Heaven.

Beth, I’m so sad for your loss, as well as for your kids. What a beautiful life and marriage you two built. I wish I had words to ease your heartache, but will be praying that your faith keeps you strong and a lifetime full of great memories carries you through the days ahead. If there is anything I can do to help keep Tom’s legacy alive, I am all in.
~Shannon Stone

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