Sharon Kasel D'Agostino
My dearest sympathy to Al’s family. I had the pleasure of working with Al at Marion for many years and he was one of the finest people I have known. He was extremely talented in all facets. Al was known for his intergrity and honesty. He was one of those people where everyone wanted to be on “his team”. Leadership came naturally to him. As noted by so many, his charismatic personality and sense of humor was a true gift.
You all will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Please share this poem with those around you. I have found it helpful over the last couple years. It is called “Please, Dear Friend”.
Please, dear friend
Don’t say to me the old cliches, like,
“Time heals all wounds,” or
“God only gives you as much as you can bear,” or
“Life is for the living”
Just say the thought of your heart, like
“I’m sorry.” “I love you.” “I’m here.” “I care.”
Hug me and squeeze my hand.
I need your warmth and strength.
Please don’t drop your eyes when I am near.
I feel so rejected now by God and man.
Just look in my eyes and let me know that you are with me.
Don’t think you must always be strong for me,
It’s okay to cry-
It tells me how much you care;
Let me cry, too-
It’s so lonely to always cry alone.
Please keep coming by, even after many weeks have passed.
When the numbness wears off, the pain of grief is unbearable.
Don’t ever expect me to be quite the same;
How can I be when part of my being is here no more?
But, please know dear friend, with your love, support, and understanding
I will live and love again,
And be grateful, every day, that I have you.
written by Mary Bailey
For anyone at MGI, please feel free to stop by and make a copy of this. I have it hanging at my desk.
God Bless. Kristi Juen
Al was a man like no other I have ever known. I feel honored and blessed to have worked for him the last 2 and half years. He taught me the value of Family and Company, and in that order. I will forever be changed and enriched by the man who whose heart was a big as his intellect. He inspired and touched my life. My deepest sympathies go to his wife, son daugther and sister. Thank you all for sharing AL with the rest of us. My prayers and sorrows go out to ya’ll. I will have a mass said in his honor. You will be sorely missed, every time I see a Denny’s or watch Favre throw a touch down pass I will think fondly and warmly of you. Al. may GOD bless and keep your soul with HIM at all times.
Marge Preuss Veeder
I knew Al many years ago when we both worked at McDonald’s in Milwaukee. I just learned of his passing today. What I have read from those who knew him and loved him in the many years since that time confirms that the important things about him never changed — his personality, his sense of humor, his capacity for life. Many times in the years since I last saw Al I thought of calling just to say hello to an old friend, and now I am sorry that I did not. Still, we are all better people because we knew him — however briefly. My deepest condolences to his family.
Friends are God’s way of taking care of us…
May Al’s family and friends, lean on their friends, to carry them through this time of loss and emptiness.
The loss of Al leaves a huge hole in so many hearts. Time will pass but the hole remains. What we choose to patch up that hole with is what Al has given us-the memories shared, and the love he has shown. Chris, Rachel, Mary, Lynne, family and friends, take these precious gifts and hold them close, as I will. With these held dear, Al will always remain a part of us. Al shared this following quote and felt it was “pretty good stuff”.
“We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, we take a little of each other everywhere.”
I feel truly privileged for having known Al and am thankful I have a part of Al to take with me. I will miss him!
I’m out of words right now…
The Babcock’s in Minnesota wish to offer our most heartfelt sympathy to the entire Caplan Family. It is surely a tragic event that makes one realize how fleeting life can be sometimes. I first got to know Al back at school at Whitewater, and have many fond memories of good times with the favorite being a road trip to Oshkosh to watch a football game and visit with friends. It was one of the best times in my life. Here’s to Al. You will never be forgotten.
From the entire McGowan family, our deepest sympathy goes out to Mary, Christopher, Rachael and Lynne. The beautiful service you arranged for Al honored him and your family. No one who attended will ever forget the crowds at the funeral home and the very touching Catholic Mass followed by the moving presentations by Kirk and the family. We all arrived with great grief and yet by the end of the good-natured reception the healing had begun. We all know that Al appreciated how every detail was carefully thought out and implemented with style and grace.
From the first time I shook his hand in 1974 at Whitewater to the last time a couple of weeks ago when he visited me in NJ, Al Caplan and I were best friends. We shared many precious moments at Whitewater, which cemented an enduring friendship. He was in my wedding and I was in his. We kept in contact even as I moved several times. I visited him or he visited me and we kept track of each other as best we could. However, Al was not satisfied with these occasional meetings. Al consistently tried to get me to join him at his annual Summerfest trip and other outings. He understood that my trips back to WI were to visit my parents and there was little time for anything else. He understood but reached out each year for each event scolding me for not holding friendship with higher priority.
Then the Pack made it to the Super Bowl! There I was walking down Bourbon Street with my wife and another couple. I was in the process of saying to them that most of Wisconsin was here so why didn?t I know anyone when I spotted Al across the street. It was a special time to be able to share the highlight of being a Packer fan with Al. We began to share e-mails, which became his favorite medium for keeping in touch. We joined fantasy football leagues together and shared jokes and rather long discussions of almost any topic you can imagine. He finally convinced me to attend his party for the Packer / Viking game last year. He then visited my parent?s home in Portage between Christmas and New Years. We were back closer then ever. We now were communicating virtually every day and after several missed opportunities he was able to put together a visit to NJ this October. We had a great visit and reminisced about the good old days and discussed the issues of the day. I pulled out a football I had saved for 28 years from a championship game we played during our first year at Whitewater. He was impressed I still had it and it started a discussion of our exploits as roommates way back then. We agreed, as we often had before, that it would be best if no one else ever knew these stories. I will honor that wish.
I tell this story to show how hard Al worked to keep in touch with his friends. He enjoyed his wide circle of friends and they him as is chronicled forever in these memorials. Al was a special man. A star, which burned far brighter then those around him making it impossible not to remember the experience of witnessing Al Caplan. I treasure the memories even as I feel a part of me is forever gone.
Al, I miss you but I thank God I knew you and I will never forget you. May God bless your family and friends and may He hold you in the palm of His hand. Rest in Peace my friend.
This is a tragic loss, the world is a sadder place today. My deepest sympathy to Mary, Chris and Rachel. Al was a mentor and friend during my 16 years working with him at Marion/MMD/HMR/Aventis. I had been bedside at the hospital with my Mom who was terminally ill when I heard the news of Al’s death. My mom passed away from breast cancer later in the week Nov 9 and I could not attend Al’s service. Both of these losses have been devastating. Words cannot express my emotions. I miss you both. You made the world a better place!
I have many fond memories of working with Al at Marion and legacy companies, particularly during the launch of the oncology franchise. We also shared fun experiences of family and sports. Al had a wonderful sense of humor and zest for life that will always be remembered. My thoughts and prayers are with his family and many friends.
Sending my heartfelt sympathy to Al’s family. Al hired me for the HMR oncology position back in 1997. It was a pleasure & joy to work for him. He was a great leader and will be deeply missed.